I say the words I wish to hear
For some reason it’s perplexing how I can give advice to someone or the other even if I have not had to go through the situation in my own life. That is basically what I have transformed into; a person who wraps fast words of consolation and solutions and support. How axiomatic these words are on my lips now while such a long time ago they were not so close to my heart.
When I am therefore addressing someone who is suffering I find myself using words that I would have wanted to hear when in the same hopeless situation. I encourage them to hang on, to carry on, that I am impressed with them, and that there is always hope. These are the words I care to hear when I am in the same situation as these characters.
Sometimes I find myself giving a piece of advice that makes me want to take it myself. Vividly, it seems that to utter these words gives me an attempt to accept them in some way, to feel that they are truthful. I just feel comfortable encouraging others as though I can handle my own issues, you know?
I find that whenever I am in a position and I find that I have clearness to advise others. I also find the same worries fading away as soon as I think about someone else’s requirements. It is something that we, all of us, need to hear nice things and sometimes we must be the ones to make the first step and say them, maybe to ourselves.
